WHY TO DEVELOP AN AIM IN LIFE?

"Aim for the moon. If you miss you may hit a star."

                                                                                    - W. Clement Stone.

Have you heard the story of bird silly bird, which wend much of his life thinking it was an ugly duckling? The duckling  around it made it feel it was ugly. It could not even say “quack quack “like a normal duckling  and felt miserable. At last one day, it realized that it was not a duckling at all. It was a swan a graceful, pure white swan.

I am here to help you make such a discovery. If you feel like an ugly duckling, well, you may be a swan in the company of duckling. Find out where you belong, and you will feel happy. You too will be liked and cherished.

Many youngsters go through life believing they are not intelligent, just because they could not secure distinction or grade A in their studies. In the company of youngsters securing distinction in studies, they might feel like ugly duckling. But if you are not good at studies, that does not mean you won’t be able to excel in any other field. May be you are cut out to be a sports man, a writer, a banker, a businessman, a politician, a colonel or even a general in the army. If you excel in any sphere of activity, you can develop self-confidence, to being with, at least in that activity. Find out what you are good at.

There is none who is worthless. Thus goes a Sanskrit saying: 

“Amantreem Aksharam nasty Nasti moolam anaushadham Ayogyah purusho nasty Yojakah tatsa durlabhah”

There is not a letter in the alphabet, which can not be used for composing a sacred mantra. There is not a herb, which has no medical value. Similarly, there is no human being who is incompetent. Only an organizer or a planner is difficult to find.

Today there are literally hundreds of vocations open to a young man and yet many youngsters feel totally dejected and turn escapist and violent, just because they cannot get admission to a course of their choice like engineering or medicine.

Please not that what the exams test is only the ability of the child to remember the answers to the questions, asked in the question paper, without the help of books. We learn what we like and from whom we like. If the child does not develop some affection for the teacher, he may not be in a position to learn from him, also if the child has not been motivated to like the subject being taught in the class room, he may not be able to learn well.

TEMPERING THE SPIRIT OF WRATH: ANGER AND THE HUMAN LIFE

“It is natural for the immature to harm others. Getting angry with them is like resenting a fire for burning.”

                                                                                      - Shantideva

Once upon a time there was a little boy with a bad temper. His father gave him a bag of nails and told him that every time he lost his temper, he should hammer a nail in the fence. The first day the boy had driven 37 nails into the fence. But gradually, the number of daily nails dwindled down. He discovered it was easier to hold his temper than to drive those nails into the fence.

Finally the first day came when the boy didn't lose his temper at all. He proudly told his father about it and the father suggested that the boy now pull out one nail for each day that he was able to hold his temper. The days passed and the young boy was finally able to tell his father that all the nails were gone. The father took his son by the hand and led him to the fence. “You have done well, my son, but look at the holes in the fence. The fence will never be the same. When you say things in anger, they leave a scar just like this one. You can put a knife in a man and draw it out, it won’t matter how many times you say ‘I’m sorry’, the wound is still there.”

Anger is a natural emotion that every human and many non-human animals experience. Mild forms of human anger may include displeasure, irritation or dislike. When we react to frustration, criticism or a threat, we may become angry and usually this is a healthy response. Anger may be a secondary response to feeling sad, lonely or frightened. When anger becomes a full-blown rage our judgment and thinking can become impaired and we are more likely to do and say unreasonable and irrational things. Anger is not just a mental state of mind. It triggers an increase in heart rate, blood pressure and levels of adrenaline and nor adrenaline. Anger has survival benefits, and forms part of our fight or flight brain response to a perceived threat or harm. When a human or animal decides to take action to stop or comfort a threat, anger usually becomes the predominant feeling and takes over our behavior, cognition and physiology.

HANDLING ANGER - APPLYING ANTIDOTES

• Patience – patience is the main antidotes to anger. As common wisdom says: just count to 100… Patience is like a beautiful ornament. When you become a person with great patience, it brings a certain element of charm to your life. You are loved by others, and you give no problems to your friends. You bring an element of joy, happiness and calmness to other people’s lives.

•  Slow thing down – count to ten; devise strategies to slow things down. As your pace slow down try to visualize a relaxing or pleasant experience – take your mind there.

• Express your anger – make sure you do this when you have calmed down. Do this in an assertive non-aggressive way.

• Exercise regularly – any of the hormones we release when we are angry are produced to help us out of danger. This was great hundreds and thousands of years ago when we had to run away from bears and predators. Exercise uses up those chemicals and hormones. If you exercise regularly not only will your body better regulate your adrenaline and cortisol levels, but as you become filter you well have better levels of endorphins – natural feel-good hormones. You will also sleep better; a crucial factor for good mental health.

• Plan what you want to say – if something is bothering you, remember that you are more likely to get sidetracked when discussing an issue if you are angry. Taking notes before the conversations.

• Focus on the solution, not just the problem – it is fine and useful to identify what made you angry. However, it’s much more important to focus on ways to resolve the problem.

• The word “I” is more constructive than the word “You” – when giving praise, the word “You” is great, however, when you are angry or resentful the word “I” tends to achieve better results. For example: “I find this subject upsetting. Could we talk about something else, please?” is better than “Why did you bring that up…?”

• Humor – don’t give in to harsh, sarcastic humor; that’s just another form of unhealthy anger expression. Good humor can sometimes dissolve anger and resentment faster than anything else. Humor is a fantastic weapon and also a gift. Some people find that just remembering a funny joke, or imagining themselves or the other person in a silly situation gets their mind away from the anger.

• Proper breathing – just as anger can increase your breathing and heart rates and tenses up your muscles, you can learn to reverse this by deliberately slowing your breathing and systematically relaxing and loosening your muscles.

• Sleep – try to get at least 7 hours good quality sleep every night. Sleep is crucial for good mental and physical health. Sleep deprivation has been linked in many studies to mental, physical and emotional health problems – including anger.

“When reason ends, then anger begins. Therefore, anger is of weakness.”

KNOW NICK VUJICIC - THE LIFE WITHOUT LIMBS

"Happiness is not the absence of problems,

it's the ability to deal with them"

                                                                                            Steve Maraboli.

Imagine, what would you do if you are born without limbs...? Most probably you would remain unknown from the rest of the world .

But what NICHOLAS JAMES VUJICIC one of the best motivational speaker did in real life was entirely different. Nick was born with tetra-amelia syndrome ,a rare disorder characterised by the absence of all four limbs. Rather sitting idly this Australian started facing challenges seriously . 

He completed a double bachelor's degree and started working as a preacher changing his weaknesses into strengths. He is now one of the most followed evangelist and motivational speaker across the world. Yes... Nick is a role model for the entire human race..

As Helen Keller said "Life is either a daring adventure or nothing at all". Lets try to live a better life.

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